THE TOP 10 Things You do

that Drives Your Partner Crazy

and The Hacks to Fix Them​!

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THE TOP 10 Things You do

that Drives Your Partner Crazy

and The Hacks to Fix Them​!

Download the list


You can’t scare me. I’ve seen things.
Between my practice and personal experience, I’ve collaborated with psychologists, psychatrists, behaviorists, social workers, even the police. I believe I’ve seen it all, and a new extreme story will not break my focus. Emotional exhaustion takes its toll. If you are not reaching out for help because of shame, guilt, time, or finances, stop it now. As a Parent Relationship Coach, I can assure you that you have come to a safe place. It can all work out for the best.  I am primarily a Parent Relationship Coach, however, I coach family relationships of all sorts, including relationships between parents and families without difficult children. If you want to make your family dynamics healthier than ever before, let me set you up for relief now, clearing your path to long term success.

Life is Good!  Now.  However, there was a time when circumstances spiraled out of control. Now my family is healthy, my practice is thriving, and as a result, I can help more people just like you everyday. I’ve been there. I am one of you. I’m Ross Milstein, also known as Coach Ross, and I am a parent of a dynamically brilliant child, who is also an unconventional badass. She has tested as highly gifted, which masked the unique ways she experiences life. You wouldn’t know she was facing any obstacles from the outside, but she powered through, and was an inspiration for a whole family transformation. We methodically worked with her nature instead of battling it.

Today, my daughter competes nationally in gymnastics, acts in plays and has a diverse group of friends. She has become a responsible young woman who spends time with children with neuro-diversities, and considers it a career path. Her passion for animals led to her volunteering at a shelter and become an advocate for animal rights. As a family, we have experienced such a turnaround that we all enthusiastically look forward to the future, and adventures ahead.

This has not always been the case. Before we weren’t looking forward to anything. We were drowning in our hyper-intense reality, just as you probably are now. Through many hours of studying and a tremendous amount of patience,  I brought the light at the end of the tunnel closer. Take advantage of my discoveries, trainings, and experiences. There is likely a lot of tension between you and your child as well as between you and your partner. Let’s turn down the flame so your environment is more enjoyable and your family life is what you have dreamed of.

When circumstances get unbearably dark, you need to let in the light.

You have come to a very safe place. There is no judgement here, no shame. I’ll guide you in ways that are easy to understand and reasonable to practice. You’ll see real results as you transform your life. My programs are not just one-more-thing to worry about, but are tangible solutions.  I’ve transcended my circumstances, and you can too. 

If your child is wired differently, undesirable behavior may have you feeling angry, confused, trapped, punished, resentful, and judged by those you care about the most. Whether it is ADHD, Autism, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, a physical disability, or some other diagnosis that has yet to be defined, the effect on the parents is sadly, about the same. 

I know you are tired, exhausted, and overwhelmed. You get unsettling texts from your partner, calls from the school, and you are never sure what you are walking into when you get home. You jump when the phone rings, and have trouble settling into sleep. You’re afraid to bring in other caregivers, what if they can’t handle this? Calm, yelling, violence, it could be anything on any day, and it is.. I get it in a way that others can’t even imagine. You can feel like you are losing your identity in your child’s diagnosis. Maybe you are beating yourself up, but these circumstances are not your fault. Even though none of this is fair, you still have responsibilities. You must keep your home calm, and your relationships strong, so you can clearly make the best decisions for the ones you care about the most.  I have the life preserver, let me help you out of the pool.

Do you want to rid yourself of the anxiety and unsettled feelings that come along with an irrational household?

You can. Your heart is broken, but you don’t have time to process it, not with all the non-stop adrenaline pumping through your veins. You live in constant crisis. Your children and your partner are both emotionally exhausted and don’t know how it’s going to end. It’s not more willpower that you need, it’s simpler than that. Let’s get you strong, let’s turn the tables.

You need this. What you are doing is not effective enough. That is not a jusdgement on you. You skill set is simply not robust enough yet. Come alone, come with a partner.  Move your family forward.

There are several programs to help you whether you are a parent or not. If one-to-one coaching speaks to you, that is available as well. If you are ready to truly to take a deep dive and transform yourself into the person, parent, and partner you want to be, THE PHOENIX PROTOCOL is the way to go.


Take Control

Ross always demands the best of people. As a result, he has helped them get an edge.”

-Charles F

Upcoming Events

September 18, 2019 5PM PST

The Phoenix Protocol • Webinar SERIES

SOLD OUT!  An eight week program that re-energizes heroes who need compassion and a clear path forward. If you are managing children diagnosed with ADHD, autism, oppositional defiance, anxiety, depression, or any combination of aggressive or extreme behaviors, then choose to right your ship NOW. From a safe place, this proprietary program will change your life, for now and the future. Through tangible physical actions, and those that are more abstract, like mindfulness and meditation, the series is built to reinforce you from the inside. Then, you can courageously rebuild your entire world for the better.

September 21, 2019 3pm PST

Psychic Tea Party with Reiki Master, Rachel Haymer • Virtual

SOLD OUT!  A internet remote event via Zoom. Psychic Tea Party is a fun hour where along with friends, you receive a healing and personalized reading from Rachel Haymer, divine seer and Reiki Master Teacher. This will tell you the number one thing your divine guidance desires to communicate to you to bring you into alignment in your life.

October 19, 2019 7pm PST

Living Vision Board • Valley Glen, CA

The Living Vision Board transports you through time to plant the seeds with the universe for your short term, long term and life goals.  No materials necessary. Bring a time traveling companion if you wish. Space is limited.


Date: March 1, 2019

Able Active Adaptive Parent Panel • Texas A&M

11:00 am to 12 noon

AAA Parenting Panel In this presentation, a panel of parents of children with a range of adaptivities will speak about their experiences (positive and negative) and the importance of providing sport for kids of all abilities.

3:00 PM – 3:50 PM

Finding Your Superhero Costume Every Superhero has an origin story. The Personality Bankruptcy Workshop is open to everyone who’s connected in some way to a person with challenges. This workshop is meant to show anyone that has been emotionally knocked down by irrational behavior or medical issues that they are not alone. When they find their superhero costume, they will no longer need to have themselves defined by external struggles. Then, our heroes are open to energetically live the life they have, with the people closest to them.

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